Wednesday, February 13, 2008

For Singles only!!

Im sure! Ngyon plang puno n ang mga resto at malls or even parks sa dami ng mga mgda2te.. BUT before u plan to go out with sum1 ngyong Vday be sure to consider these things ill tell yah..

Dating is the act of going out on dates whereby one person socializes with a potential lover using a process that involves scheduling, usually exclusive, meetings of two people with mutual interest in one another.

For us, we use dating as part of the “getting to know stage”. During this process, people often explore each other through "dates" to discover whether or not they would be compatible together in a serious relationship. And if that person doesn’t feel any connection between them, then that’s the end of “dating”.

But sometimes, from what I observed, people tend to exceed from the ‘limits’ of dating. From my knowledge, I know that “holding hands” and “hugging” (i guess) are allowed in this process. What’s worst is when I heard people talking that they enjoyed the date because they were able to ‘score’ with their dates.. hmmm… this is what I’m talking about!!.. tsk tsk tsk.. Nowadays, a lot of people say that it’s the usual thing today and that’s what makes the “dating” more exciting!.. Well, I don’t know about that but for people like me that view s*x as an intimate activity between a married couple, it should not be done especially when you are just “assessing” the person and yet you don’t have a relationship (perhaps, a serious one) with the one you’re dating with.

I think, we should first really get-to-know the person deeply. Then from there you can build the relationship and do things the way you want it to be (I will not argue with you anymore when it comes to that matter). For now, just enjoy each others company and the “kilig” feeling it gives you.

Ok! Enough of the “sermon”.. Let me just give you tips on dating.

Dating Rules - Do's

  1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates
  1. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.
  1. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.
  1. Be interested and interesting. Having that ‘sense of humor’ makes the dating an event that your date will always be looking forward to.
  1. Do tell someone if you are NOT INTERESTED in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.
  1. Date only those you seem interested or attracted to. Don’t let your friends blow you away by their ‘opinions’ about your date and people they want you to go out with.
  1. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a true prince.
  1. Dating is the best way to be creative and take advantage of the chance to go to places you always wanted to visit.
  1. Make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.
  1. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.

Dating Rules - Don'ts

  1. NEVER BE LATE, especially for men, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves – ever!!..
  1. NEVER TELL LIES to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.
  1. Never be TOO available. Being available every night of the week means you are making yourself uninteresting. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.
  1. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love “enigma” and mystery. Reveal things little by little each date so that you and your date will have enough topics to talk about.
  1. Never check other people out when you are with your date. FOCUS on your date! Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.
  1. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
  1. Don't ignore your PERSONAL SAFETY when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.
  1. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities. Who knows, they might have stalked you and I bet you don’t want stalkers around you!
  1. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance.
  1. Never date a married person or person who is already in a relationship! They will not leave their partners for you (except exceptionally rarely). Don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.

May you have a ‘perfect date’ (or even close to that) on this special day of hearts. Go out and have fun! Let us not allow ourselves to get lonesome while other people are making the most out of it!..=^.^=

1 comment:

Desana said...

Well written article.