Nowadays, uso na tlga ung MU lng…. And I admit, ive been there… u’re not in a ‘serious relationship’ or ‘commitment’ but ur gesture tells everything… ganon nba tlga khirap mkpgcommit and others jz seems to enjoi this kind of relationship…
I have read from d blog of my frnd about this kind of relationship… and it left me nodding while saying ‘oo nga noh…’ well try to read it nrin… bka isa kau sa mga tao hus in dis kind of situation…
Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite.
> It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.
> Pwedeng may verbal agreement, pwedeng wala.
> One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi.
>You just let your gestures do the talking for you.
> Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.
> Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.
> Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.
> This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons.
> It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.
> It can also happen before a relationship. Yung pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang. Pwede ring hindi pwedeng mging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually the guy --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."
> This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro." Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.
> So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong setup ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?
> Iba't ibang dahilan.
> Puwedeng for fun lang.
> Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or
> pwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
> For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.
> Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw mo.
> Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing.
> Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti ka dahil alam mong galing sa kanya ang message.
> Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, pwede na itong pagtiyagaan.
> But though it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real.
> And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.
> Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
> Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship or if there is a relationship at all.
> Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?
> Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship . Wala kang pinanghahawakan.
> Kasi sa pseudo-relationship , there is no "
> Buti
> Pero pwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Pwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences. But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.
> sbi nga nla, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo.
> Usually, hanggang doon lang siya ... almost, but not quite.
I admit dat during dos tymz, I was d one who decided not to be in a ’commitment’. Yeah! I was scared! So damn SCARED… I thot that d only way his parents, friends and people around him can accept me is thru my achievements… my degree, my license, and my career. I was contented knowing that I have him around. But I was too focused on my own happiness not knowing that in his side… his lyk in the middle of d road and he doesn’t know wer or wen he’ll cross the bridge or wat road he’ll be t8king… STUPID of me to put him in that situation… but I guess.. both of us have to take the risk…
He once told me “bkit kya ang tao, ayaw nla mwala ung taong mhal nla pro ayw din nmn nilang angkinin” so confusing isn’t it??... but I guess in love we do things, stupid things, just for us to avoid getting hurt.. and dats why we choose to ‘play safe’… but doing so will just lead us even closer in that part of our lives that we wish we’r numb, frozen, dead bcoz of so much hurt that we hide deep inside our harts.
True! It didn’t last… and we end up back to wer we started… “FRIENDS” just plain ‘frnds’…. But its okie… atleast we still have sumting to hold on… and dats OUR FRIENDSHIP.
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