Clean-Up Time

Sobrang nka2pgod diz day kc b nmn nggeneral cleaning kmi ni mama. its our own way of removing all the “malas” and allowing more space for the “swerte” to come in and that is according to Feng Shui.. Thou im not really a believer of these but still tumulong nrin ako 2tal tambay lng nmn ako d2 sa hauz. hehe.. well According to my Mom, dapat daw every “year-end” gngwa daw e2 pra nga nmn mging mganda ung psok ng bgong taon..

As I was doing these, I realize na dapat ndi lng pla sa bahay ntin e2 gngwa.. pati mismo sa “buhay” ntin.. its not that pra ‘swertihin’ tau kundi pra mging mliniz tau as we face another year of our lives. Sbi nga dba, “start a brand NEW year”…

• All the bad things that happened to me in 2007
• Areas in my life na sira na at dna kya pang ayusin
• At ung mga relationships na tuluyan ng kinalawang

All these deserves to be thrown out and put in a trash can where d garbage collector picks it up and throws it somewhere else na malayo skin.. Coz these are really “trashes” sa buhay ko.

Well for my friends nmn I think dpat ko cla itago sa place where everything else is “recyclable”.. I think friendship should constantly renew… I know this coming year e mraming mgbbgo.. evry1 will be so busy in fulfilling their own dreams but I know that no matter what happen, friendship will always be there binding us all together. Sbi nga nla, “a lil change won’t cause harm”…

As 2008 is fast approaching, still we have time to think things over.. lets make ourselves “cleaned-up” for us to be “a better person inside and out" as we face this year!!!...

F I N A L L Y. . .

finally i heard from you

finally you heard me too..

its been so long since our last talk

its been a while since we saw each other..

i mizz those dayz that we hang out..

i mizz those tymz that we laugh out loud..

but most especially i mizz you..

how come these things have to change?

how come you act as if your not my friend??

but still no matter wat, i'll love to be with you again

and bring back those memories that we love to share.


i miss yah.. i really do!!...

FALSE-HEARTED

This is in relation with my previous entry. One of the factors in cheating is lying.

According to Dr. House “Everybody LIES!”

White lie, big lie or even the smallest lie – all of them are still lies!

So what do we get from lying??...

Well, most of us do this for the reason that we want to cover up the mistakes that we have done.

But come to think of it, covering up a mistake with another mistake is a no-no!..

But telling the truth is as difficult as solving the problem.

Plus, let’s admit the fact that sumtymz telling the truth can worsen the situation even more!

Haaayy.. so ano b tlga dpat ntin gawin??...

Wel simple lng…let the truth come out! Coz sooner or later, no matter how hard you try to hide it, the TRUTH shall prevail… and ikw lng nmn ang talo sa huli..=)

Actually, what really bothers me e bkit kya evnthou we know that everybody lies, still we trust.

As for me, it’s easy to trust sum1 esp. wen that person has taken or touched my heart in anyway. Kya cguro gnon nlng ako kbiliz sktan ng mga taong pngkktwalaan ko...

Are they worthy enough to receive such trust?? If not, then how can we know??.. Is der a special quality or criteria?? Is it right to give them a second chance evnthou we know that they can break it again??...

What I tink is dat nobody can really tell if sum1 deserves it or not.

Only the person that we trust can make it really worth it.

Think about this: “He, who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second and third time, till at length of time it becomes habitual.”

QUESTION: What’s the biggest LIE you have said or done to someone?

-come on guyz.. share nmn kau... hahaha...-

Cheating

Why do people cheat??...

Sbi sa show na “SIS” people cheat in a relationship kc sawa na cla…

example: u’r livin ur lyf na lagi kang snay na ibat ibng klase ng ‘putahe’ ang nkahain sau den all of a sudden bglang puros ‘palabok’ nlng ung ka2inin mo… xempre mani2bgo ka at ha2nap hnapin mo ung dati mong buhay… parang gnon din daw wen ur in a relationship… wen u stick to sum1 and all you see is her.. wla ng iba… nka2sawa nga nmn…

Base on studies, mas mrmi ‘DAW’ na girls ang ngche2at... mgaling lng daw tlga ‘kming mga girls’ mgtago... hehehe… and 1 more ting, mlakas daw kc ang instincts nmin pgdting sa cheating kya mbils kming mkahuli… hmmm…. I dunno if I wanna bliv dis pro sa mga ngya2ri nmn sa plgid ko, mostly la2ke tlga ung ngche2at…

But the only difference wen a girl cheats is that, umaamin kmi once na nhuli kmi… compare with guyz, all proofs have been laid down pro ha2nap at ha2nap prin ng lusot.

One of the guests in the show said, guys doesn’t want to lose the one they have kya lu2sot at lu2sot cla... coz whoever girl they are with in their relationship are surely the ones they call “for keeps”…

Hmmmm.. ang labo nun ha… if dey don’t wnt their girls to leave them, so dpat d nla gngwa un… coz being in a relationship is not a game… you invest your time, effort, feelings, dreams, … your whole world… imagine dat…

Signs of cheating are not necessarily the same thing as proof of cheating. Without proof, few cheaters will tell the truth.

So wat we should do??... find sumting n mgpa2tibay sa hinala mo…

tandaan: "ang hinalang wlang patunay ay mna2tiling hinala n lamang habang buhay!!..."

Haaaay nku!! Pag ako nkaencounter ng gn2… 1 explanation is enough….

Enough for me to leave him…

Paalala: Cheaters NEVER WIN!!

Could have been

Nowadays, uso na tlga ung MU lng…. And I admit, ive been there… u’re not in a ‘serious relationship’ or ‘commitment’ but ur gesture tells everything… ganon nba tlga khirap mkpgcommit and others jz seems to enjoi this kind of relationship…

I have read from d blog of my frnd about this kind of relationship… and it left me nodding while saying ‘oo nga noh…’ well try to read it nrin… bka isa kau sa mga tao hus in dis kind of situation…

Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite.

> It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.

> Pwedeng may verbal agreement, pwedeng wala.

> One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi.

>You just let your gestures do the talking for you.

> Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.

> Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.

> Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

> This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons.

> It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

> It can also happen before a relationship. Yung pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang. Pwede ring hindi pwedeng mging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually the guy --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

> This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro." Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.

> So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong setup ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

> Iba't ibang dahilan.

> Puwedeng for fun lang.

> Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or

> pwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.

> For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.

> Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kumusta araw mo.

> Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing.

> Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti ka dahil alam mong galing sa kanya ang message.

> Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, pwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

> But though it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real.

> And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.

> Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

> Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship or if there is a relationship at all.

> Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?

> Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship . Wala kang pinanghahawakan.

> Kasi sa pseudo-relationship , there is no "US." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us."

> Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain! And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else. Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of setup for fun and then you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.

> Pero pwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Pwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences. But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.

> sbi nga nla, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo.

> Usually, hanggang doon lang siya ... almost, but not quite.

I admit dat during dos tymz, I was d one who decided not to be in a ’commitment’. Yeah! I was scared! So damn SCARED… I thot that d only way his parents, friends and people around him can accept me is thru my achievements… my degree, my license, and my career. I was contented knowing that I have him around. But I was too focused on my own happiness not knowing that in his side… his lyk in the middle of d road and he doesn’t know wer or wen he’ll cross the bridge or wat road he’ll be t8king… STUPID of me to put him in that situation… but I guess.. both of us have to take the risk…

He once told me “bkit kya ang tao, ayaw nla mwala ung taong mhal nla pro ayw din nmn nilang angkinin” so confusing isn’t it??... but I guess in love we do things, stupid things, just for us to avoid getting hurt.. and dats why we choose to ‘play safe’… but doing so will just lead us even closer in that part of our lives that we wish we’r numb, frozen, dead bcoz of so much hurt that we hide deep inside our harts.

True! It didn’t last… and we end up back to wer we started… “FRIENDS” just plain ‘frnds’…. But its okie… atleast we still have sumting to hold on… and dats OUR FRIENDSHIP.

Guyz.. if u feel lyk u’re in dis kind of set-up, t8k the risk to choose… coz if u insist to always be in d middle, ul end up being nowhere!